Today, I wanted to chat with you about Reigniting the Fire in your relationship. The more I work with women, the more I find a disconnect between them and their partner.
Some of us have been together with our significant other for a very long time (I'm coming up on 23 years of marriage!) and find ourselves stuck in a rut when it comes to desire and intimacy.
Whether it's the monotony of doing the same things over and over, or just being too busy or too tired, I promise you there are ways to Reignite the Spark.
And it doesn't have to be all about sex either. There are fun ways to incorporate intimacy, fun and sexiness without having sex....unless of course, you want too. ;)
But if it's been a while since you've actually had sex, and you're unsure of where to start, start small by stoking the embers of intimacy and desire.
Here's a few ways you can do that:
1. Hold hands...yes, it's really that simple. When was the last time you held your partners hand? By simply taking hold their hand, maybe softly stroking the top of it with your thumb, you are initiating a connection.
2. Initiate a date night. When was the last time you actually went on a proper date? Hubbs and I have date night once a week....no kids, no friends, just us. It's probably my favorite night of the week because I get his undivided attention for hours. Don't wait for your parter to schedule a date night, take charge and do it.
3. Kiss....Ohhhh girl, when was the last time you kissed your partner? When they walk in the door from work, do you stop and kiss them hello? Or do you kiss them goodbye when they leave in the morning? What about walking up behind them and kissing their neck for no reason? There are so many opportunities to KISS... you just have to act on them. 4. FLIRT...Flirting is FUN. It brings an anticipation and excitement into the mix. When was the last time you flirted with your partner? Have you told them how attracted you are to them? Told them how sexy they look? Perhaps you need to tell them how good they look naked or in something their wearing? Whatever it is, FLIRT. 5. SEXTING...Um, yes. You just read that. Sexting is another way to add some spice and get that fire smoldering. It doesn't have to been extremely graphic in nature if you aren't comfortable with that, but you can make it fun and flirty. It's really that simple. If you want to add spice to your relationship, then step out of your comfort zone and incorporate one, if not all, of the above!!