Why New Year's Resolutions Don't Work

We're here. December 31st is

just a few days away and we're coming to the end of a year that has been like no other.


We're also on the precipice of a New Year, which always excites me.


But, I have to be honest with you, this year has taken it's toll on me. I've struggled more this year than I have in most years, yet I've also gained a great deal of clarity.


We've lost a lot, as I know many have, and there have been many times where I have questioned what the hell I'm doing.


I've cried more tears than I like to admit, confronted feelings that I had long ago buried, and let go of negative behaviors that were not serving me.


With all that being said, I've also been able to find so much good in this difficult year.


I've spent more time with my kids and hubby.

I've slowed down.

I've gained clarity.

I've forged deeper connections with friends.

I've let my creativity flow.

I've spent more time in nature.

I've healed parts of me that needed healing.

I've forgiven myself and others.


I gave up New Year's Resolutions a few years ago. I realized they set this expectation that left no room for flexibility, so if I messed up one day, I felt like a complete failure.


It wasn't good for my mental health so I decided to let them go.


Instead, I mediate and ask for a word for the year.





This one word, is the word that guides my daily actions, and sets the tone for the year ahead.


Choosing a word for the year ahead doesn't have to be difficult. In fact, it can be quite fun.


Take time to reflect on the past year and ask yourself these simple questions.

  1. What could I use less?

  2. What could I use more of?

  3. How do I want to feel?

Next, get quiet and ask yourself "What word do I want to guide me in 2021?"


Take some time to write a list of words that come to mind. Set a timer for 10 minutes, and let the words flow out of you, don't edit! Just let them come and write them down.


Once this is done, circle or highlight the three words that pop off the page to you.


Of those three words, which one can you commit to?


Once you have your word, write it everywhere. Put it in your planner, on post-it notes, say it out loud each day, and let it guide you throughout this next year.


You can also do something fun, like use the image of words below, to choose your word. Look at the picture and use the first word you see as your word of the year.





I'd love to hear what your word is....


Leave a comment below.

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