🌙 Resting Without Guilt, Part Two:
What My Solo Trip Taught Me About Taking Care of Myself
I just returned from four days at the beach, four days of silence, sunlight, slow mornings, and being completely responsible for no one but myself.
And it was everything I didn’t know I needed.
Restorative. Soothing. Nourishing.
The kind of rest that gets into your bones and reminds you who you are when you’re not rushing, holding, managing, or doing.
And yet… by day three, I missed my husband.
Not in a heavy or codependent way, but in that warm, familiar way you miss home once your soul has had time to soften.
It reminded me that self-care doesn’t distance us from our relationships. It strengthens them.
Because we return fuller, clearer, and more grounded.
🌿 The Truth: Rest Isn’t a Luxury…It’s a Need
On this trip, something shifted for me.
I realized that my body had been asking for rest long before I gave it.
My mind needed space.
My nervous system needed quiet.
My heart needed softness.
But I kept pushing through, because that’s what we’re taught to do.
Keep going. Keep serving. Keep holding it all together.
And when we finally stop, the guilt creeps in.
Shouldn’t I be doing something?
Shouldn’t I be cleaning, working, catching up?
Is it okay to just… rest?
Yes.
It is not only okay, it’s vital.
Rest isn’t selfish.
Rest is medicine.
This is the wisdom of the Queen Era:
We do not abandon ourselves to meet the world’s expectations.
We nourish ourselves so we can show up with presence and truth.
🌸 You Don’t Need a Solo Trip to Restore Yourself
Yes, four days away was healing. And I am incredibly grateful I am in a space where I can do that.
But most women don’t have the ability to pack a bag and disappear for a few days.
However, that doesn’t mean you can’t find pockets of restoration in your everyday life.
Here are simple, daily ways to nurture yourself — ways that support your body and mind even in the busiest seasons:
☕ 1. Begin Your Day Without Your Phone
Give yourself the first 10 minutes of the morning.
Breathe. Stretch. Sip something warm.
Let your nervous system wake gently.
✨ My go-to:
– Root Chakra Tea
– Tulsi Tea
🕯️ 2. Light Something That Grounds You
Scent is a powerful anchor.
A candle, incense, or essential oil can signal your body that it’s safe to relax.
✨ My go-to:
– Laluz Diffuser with Lemon and Lavender
– Lavender essential oil roll-on
🪶 3. Give Yourself Five Minutes of Free Writing
Not a to-do list.
Not notes or planning.
Just:
“What do I need today?”
“What feels heavy?”
“Where can I soften?”
This small ritual brings you back into your body — and back into your truth.
🌿 4. Step Outside for Fresh Air
Stand on your porch.
Put your feet in the grass.
Feel the sun on your face.
You don’t need a long walk — sometimes a two-minute pause reconnects you more deeply than a full workout.
🛁 5. Have a Nighttime Wind-Down
Even five minutes changes everything:
– A warm shower
– Body oil
– Soft pajamas
– Reading instead of scrolling
It signals to your entire system that rest is not rushed.
Rest is received.
✨ My go-to:
– Rose Hand Lotion
- Escape Series Trio
👑 6. Give Yourself Permission
This is the hardest part — and the part that matters most.
Rest isn’t about the ritual itself.
It’s about believing you deserve to be cared for.
Not when everything is done.
Not when everyone else has what they need.
Now.
Today.
Where you are.
This is the embodiment of the Queen:
Choosing yourself before you break.
🌊 What I’m Bringing Home From My Trip
I’m coming home rested, softened, and reminded of this:
My life doesn’t need to move fast to be meaningful.
I don’t have to earn my rest.
I don’t have to feel guilty for needing space.
And I don’t have to disappear to take care of myself, I just need to create consistent moments where I breathe, pause, and return.
You deserve that too.
You deserve to feel held by your own life again.
You deserve to rest without apology.
Rest isn’t the escape.
Rest is the return. 🌙
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